Just had a local interview that went seemingly well. I had spent over 4 hours with various heads of a software company and felt a strong report with each member of the management team. I was well prepared, enthusiastic and genuinely interested in their marketing management position. As a result, I was told I made it to the final round as one of the top 2 candidates. Within days the recruiter called and delivered the bad news. The company decided to change their direction and go with someone who had "social media expertise". (I think this is the new code in marketing for younger and less expensive.)
What's a woman to do?
1) Vent
Social media, really?! I can do that and then some. Do they not see my tweets and blogs? Did they not view my prior employees website that I helped create and launch within 4 months?
Ok companies, we get it-social media is cheap and it does help reach some of your market. But....with all the focus it's generated during our economic downturn, it's created a backlash that is diminishing its effectiveness. How many times do you delete messages from solicitors without reading them? How many times do you "opt out"? How many times do you filter your email? Then there's the issue of organic rankings. With Google and Bing fighting over top bill for search engines, it's becoming harder and harder to rank on the coveted first page of your search.
Without the adherance to solid marketing principles-the 4,5 or 7 P's-depending who you ask, your messaging will lost in the black hole of the internet. I know, I've been conducting a social media test for the last 4 months, since launching my second blog, to see how well you can pick up traffic w/o marketing yourself. The answer...not very well.
So, my marketing friends, when assessing your requirements please see social media for what it is, a communication channel. Whether it's your best or only vehicle should depend on your targeted audience, their habits, your product/service and your budget. When hiring you should think of your candidates in terms of who's best placed to add value to your organization. And, as with anything else, you'll ultimately get what you pay for.
2) Look in the mirror
What have I learned from this experience? Perhaps I should have emphasized my social media experience more. Perhaps I should sign up for more marketing webinars to pick up a few new tricks. There's always more to learn.
3) Brush yourself off and move on
I firmly believe things happen for a reason. I am currently pursuing my "dream job" and hoping to close something in the first quarter of 2011. Until then, I will continue to make lemonade!
Happy job hunting and happy holidays!
Paula
Wednesday, December 15, 2010
Shine, don't fold, when asked difficult interview questions
http://www.linkedin.com/e/wmk3in-ghq99s2p-d/ava/37686587/1542617/EML_anet_qa_ttle-0Ot79xs2RVr6JBpnsJt7dBpSBA/
Some simple suggestions in prepping for interviews to avoid melting when asked difficult questions. My favorite tip: Be natural, but upbeat. People remember attitude more than specific responses.
Good Luck!
Paula
Do you Know How to Turn Tough Interviewer Questions Into Knock Out Strengths?
By:Bobby Edelman; (Excerpt from "An Over 40 Career Change: Arctic Freeze or Tropic Breeze© Learn more )
Once at the interview, you are going to be asked a lot of questions by your potential employer. They will ask about you in particular such as what your strengths and weaknesses are. You might want to prepare for answering questions by listing some of your attributes. Talk to former co-workers with whom you worked closely. Ask them to list some traits about you that they most admired -- work related, of course.
Try to find some faults as well. You won't, obviously, spontaneously tell a prospective employer about these faults, but you may be asked to. One question that sometimes comes up in an interview is "What is something that has been a problem for you at work?" By studying your faults, you will be able to choose one that is somewhat innocuous or could be turned around into a positive.
For example, I’ve always been a very organized person – almost to the point of obsessiveness. However, employers look at organizational skills as assets not liabilities. So in an interview, I would tell them one of my shortcomings was that I wanted to be too organized.
Practice how you will answer possible questions in an interview. You want to seem somewhat spontaneous, but you also want to appear self-confident. The way to do that is to rehearse, not exactly what you will say, but how you will say it.
A great method is to rehearse in front of a video camera. Study your posture, the way you make eye contact, and your body language. If you don't have a video camera, a mirror will do. Have a friend do mock interviews with you. The more you repeat a scenario, the more comfortable you will begin to feel with it.
When it comes down to it, isn't this the main point of the interview? Speak slowly and clearly. I tend to speak very quickly, so this is something I must pay careful attention to when I am on an interview. Pause before you answer a question. Your answers will seem less rehearsed and it will give you a chance to collect your thoughts. Keep in mind that a very brief pause may seem like an eternity to you. It's not.
Since the interviewer's job is to make sure that not only your skill, but your personality as well, is a good match, you must establish rapport with the person or persons interviewing you. That begins the instant you walk in the door. Let the interviewer set the tone.
Nothing is as awkward as offering your hand and having the gesture not returned by the other person. Therefore you should wait for the interviewer to offer his or her hand first, but be ready to offer your hand immediately. Some experts suggest talking at the same rate and tone as the interviewer. For example, if the interviewer is speaking softly, so should you.
It’s alright for you to show your true personality, but be careful not to go too over-the-top. I am a very bubbly, naturally outgoing person who tends to get a little hyperactive in stressful situations. I also have a gift for humor which tends to make people feel comfortable with me.
In job interviews, I’ll try to tone down the excessive energy that I usually have and inject some humor into the conversation. This helps relax both me and the person doing the interview and we’re able to communicate much easier.
They say that body language gives more away about us than speech. Eye contact is very important but make sure it looks natural. A smiling, relaxed face is very inviting. Hands resting casually in your lap rather than arms folded across your chest also is more inviting. If you normally move your hands around a lot when you speak, tone it down some. You don't want to look too stiff, but you don't want to look like you're a bundle of nervous energy.
So what kind of questions can you expect during your job interview? Here are a few to think about along with some possible answers:
Tell me about yourself. (They are not looking for personal information here)
My background to date has been centered on preparing myself to become the very best _____ I can become. Let me tell you specifically how I've prepared myself...
Why should I hire you?
Because I sincerely believe that I'm the best person for the job. I realize that there are many other college students that have the ability to do this job. I also have that ability. But I also bring an additional quality that makes me the very best person for the job--my attitude for excellence. Not just giving lip service to excellence, but putting every part of myself into achieving it. In ... and ... I have consistently reached for becoming the very best I can become by doing the following...
What is your long-range objective? Where do you want to be 10 or 15 years from now?
Although it's certainly difficult to predict things far into the future, I know what direction I want to develop toward. Within five years, I would like to become the very best _____ your company has. I would like to become the expert that others rely upon. And in doing so, I feel I will be fully prepared to take on any greater responsibilities that might be presented in the long term.
How has your education prepared you for your career?
As you will note on my resume, I've taken not only the required core classes in the _____ field, I've also gone above and beyond. I've taken every class the college has to offer in the field and also completed an independent study project specifically in this area. But it's not just taking the classes to gain academic knowledge I've taken each class, both inside and outside of my major, with this profession in mind. So when we're studying _____ in _____, I've viewed it from the perspective of _____. In addition, I've always tried to keep a practical view of how the information would apply to my job. Not just theory, but how it would actually apply. My capstone course project in my final semester involved developing a real-world model of _____, which is very similar to what might be used within your company...
What is your greatest weakness?
I would say my greatest weakness has been my lack of proper planning in the past. I would over-commit myself with too many variant tasks, then not be able to fully accomplish each as I would like. However, since I've come to recognize that weakness, I've taken steps to correct it. For example, I now carry a planning calendar in my pocket so that I can plan all of my appointments and "to do" items. Here, let me show you how I have this week planned out...
What attracted you to our ad over others?
I approach my job hunting strategy pretty much like I approach my work. I took some time to think about the skills I want to use on my next job, the industry I'd like to work for and the location I want. I did some research on companies that were advertising and knew this company had the qualities I am looking for in my career and future.
If you are interviewing for a sales job, it’s entirely possible that the interviewer will ask you to sell him or her something. For example, I had one prospective boss who laid a pen on the table between us and told me to “sell” him the pen. What he wanted was to see how my persuasive skills were and if I could point out the great aspects of that pen to motivate him to “buy” it.
Usually toward the end of the interviewer, the person conducting it will ask you if you have any questions. You should have some. As in every other aspect of the job search, you are trying to show the employer how you can fill their needs. By asking certain questions, you are putting yourself in the job and showing the employer how you will satisfy the employer's needs.
Some simple suggestions in prepping for interviews to avoid melting when asked difficult questions. My favorite tip: Be natural, but upbeat. People remember attitude more than specific responses.
Good Luck!
Paula
Do you Know How to Turn Tough Interviewer Questions Into Knock Out Strengths?
By:Bobby Edelman; (Excerpt from "An Over 40 Career Change: Arctic Freeze or Tropic Breeze© Learn more )
Once at the interview, you are going to be asked a lot of questions by your potential employer. They will ask about you in particular such as what your strengths and weaknesses are. You might want to prepare for answering questions by listing some of your attributes. Talk to former co-workers with whom you worked closely. Ask them to list some traits about you that they most admired -- work related, of course.
Try to find some faults as well. You won't, obviously, spontaneously tell a prospective employer about these faults, but you may be asked to. One question that sometimes comes up in an interview is "What is something that has been a problem for you at work?" By studying your faults, you will be able to choose one that is somewhat innocuous or could be turned around into a positive.
For example, I’ve always been a very organized person – almost to the point of obsessiveness. However, employers look at organizational skills as assets not liabilities. So in an interview, I would tell them one of my shortcomings was that I wanted to be too organized.
Practice how you will answer possible questions in an interview. You want to seem somewhat spontaneous, but you also want to appear self-confident. The way to do that is to rehearse, not exactly what you will say, but how you will say it.
A great method is to rehearse in front of a video camera. Study your posture, the way you make eye contact, and your body language. If you don't have a video camera, a mirror will do. Have a friend do mock interviews with you. The more you repeat a scenario, the more comfortable you will begin to feel with it.
When it comes down to it, isn't this the main point of the interview? Speak slowly and clearly. I tend to speak very quickly, so this is something I must pay careful attention to when I am on an interview. Pause before you answer a question. Your answers will seem less rehearsed and it will give you a chance to collect your thoughts. Keep in mind that a very brief pause may seem like an eternity to you. It's not.
Since the interviewer's job is to make sure that not only your skill, but your personality as well, is a good match, you must establish rapport with the person or persons interviewing you. That begins the instant you walk in the door. Let the interviewer set the tone.
Nothing is as awkward as offering your hand and having the gesture not returned by the other person. Therefore you should wait for the interviewer to offer his or her hand first, but be ready to offer your hand immediately. Some experts suggest talking at the same rate and tone as the interviewer. For example, if the interviewer is speaking softly, so should you.
It’s alright for you to show your true personality, but be careful not to go too over-the-top. I am a very bubbly, naturally outgoing person who tends to get a little hyperactive in stressful situations. I also have a gift for humor which tends to make people feel comfortable with me.
In job interviews, I’ll try to tone down the excessive energy that I usually have and inject some humor into the conversation. This helps relax both me and the person doing the interview and we’re able to communicate much easier.
They say that body language gives more away about us than speech. Eye contact is very important but make sure it looks natural. A smiling, relaxed face is very inviting. Hands resting casually in your lap rather than arms folded across your chest also is more inviting. If you normally move your hands around a lot when you speak, tone it down some. You don't want to look too stiff, but you don't want to look like you're a bundle of nervous energy.
So what kind of questions can you expect during your job interview? Here are a few to think about along with some possible answers:
Tell me about yourself. (They are not looking for personal information here)
My background to date has been centered on preparing myself to become the very best _____ I can become. Let me tell you specifically how I've prepared myself...
Why should I hire you?
Because I sincerely believe that I'm the best person for the job. I realize that there are many other college students that have the ability to do this job. I also have that ability. But I also bring an additional quality that makes me the very best person for the job--my attitude for excellence. Not just giving lip service to excellence, but putting every part of myself into achieving it. In ... and ... I have consistently reached for becoming the very best I can become by doing the following...
What is your long-range objective? Where do you want to be 10 or 15 years from now?
Although it's certainly difficult to predict things far into the future, I know what direction I want to develop toward. Within five years, I would like to become the very best _____ your company has. I would like to become the expert that others rely upon. And in doing so, I feel I will be fully prepared to take on any greater responsibilities that might be presented in the long term.
How has your education prepared you for your career?
As you will note on my resume, I've taken not only the required core classes in the _____ field, I've also gone above and beyond. I've taken every class the college has to offer in the field and also completed an independent study project specifically in this area. But it's not just taking the classes to gain academic knowledge I've taken each class, both inside and outside of my major, with this profession in mind. So when we're studying _____ in _____, I've viewed it from the perspective of _____. In addition, I've always tried to keep a practical view of how the information would apply to my job. Not just theory, but how it would actually apply. My capstone course project in my final semester involved developing a real-world model of _____, which is very similar to what might be used within your company...
What is your greatest weakness?
I would say my greatest weakness has been my lack of proper planning in the past. I would over-commit myself with too many variant tasks, then not be able to fully accomplish each as I would like. However, since I've come to recognize that weakness, I've taken steps to correct it. For example, I now carry a planning calendar in my pocket so that I can plan all of my appointments and "to do" items. Here, let me show you how I have this week planned out...
What attracted you to our ad over others?
I approach my job hunting strategy pretty much like I approach my work. I took some time to think about the skills I want to use on my next job, the industry I'd like to work for and the location I want. I did some research on companies that were advertising and knew this company had the qualities I am looking for in my career and future.
If you are interviewing for a sales job, it’s entirely possible that the interviewer will ask you to sell him or her something. For example, I had one prospective boss who laid a pen on the table between us and told me to “sell” him the pen. What he wanted was to see how my persuasive skills were and if I could point out the great aspects of that pen to motivate him to “buy” it.
Usually toward the end of the interviewer, the person conducting it will ask you if you have any questions. You should have some. As in every other aspect of the job search, you are trying to show the employer how you can fill their needs. By asking certain questions, you are putting yourself in the job and showing the employer how you will satisfy the employer's needs.
Friday, October 1, 2010
Sealing the deal, how to best represent yourself during an interview.
Hi,
I read this recent article published by Net-Temps and thought it was worth sharing. Winning the Interview, by Steve Goldberg, President of We the People, covers tips on differentiating yourself during the interview. These tips will help you communicate your value in a way that is compelling and meaningful and, as a result, are likely to increase your chances of landing an offer.
I like his approach, as it's a familiar marketing formula. You present the problem, discuss the solution and state the value you provided. It makes good sense. Unfortunately, sometimes, it's easier said then done. I know I've gotten caught up in run-away interviews, where the interviewer didn't ask the questions that helped show-case my talents or was preoccupied with other things and didn't seem to be listening. There are so many moving parts to an interview, including nerves, that it's sometimes hard to stay on- track and showcase your strengths.
So, dear readers, all you can do when interviewing is try your best-be positive, be prepared and be professional.
Hope this is helpful.
Best,
Paula
This Week's Articles
Winning the Job Interview-Learn how to stand out from the competition
It has often been said that “your resume can get you an interview,” but in reality it’s your interview that can get you the job. In today’s challenging and competitive job market, employer’s have many candidates to choose from and therefore have become more discerning then ever before, which is why developing your interviewing skills is so important.
The person interviewing you is not only looking at your qualifications, but they are looking at what differentiates you from every other candidate. Answering the question, “what is it that you bring to this company and to this position that no one else can?” is what helps you stand out in a crowd.
As a professional interviewing coach with We Place People, this is one of the most important topics we discuss when preparing our candidates for interviews. With almost every question you answer, there must be something that you share that will make you stand out differently from everyone else and will ultimately make the company want to hire you! Remember, an interview is not just about what you have done, it’s about what you can do for that company. It’s what you can offer that your competition can not that will help make you the “candidate of choice.”
Determining who to move forward in the interviewing process is not always as cut and dry as one would think. The front line interviewers themselves are evaluated by the company on the caliber of the candidates they move forward in the process and if that person ultimately gets hired. They must ensure the candidates are qualified and they will be a “fit” for the organization, the position and the hiring decision maker. This is where you must “help” by sharing those skills, experiences, training, or qualifications that you bring to the organization that other candidates may not. It’s also the time to demonstrate your critical thinking process and how you approach and complete tasks, responsibilities, or projects. These are the same elements that you should prepare for when interviewing with the decision maker.
Here are some tips on how you can differentiate yourself:
1.Create a list of 5 interview questions that you are certain you will be asked in your interview
2.Carefully review the job description and learn about the company and position
3.When answering the interview questions and reviewing the elements of the job description you need to be able to describe:
a. What roles or responsibilities you had in your previous positions as they relate specifically to the position you are applying for and will resonate with the interviewer
b.How you specifically completed each function or responsibility
c.What the results were
d.What you have to offer that makes you stand out amongst others with similar backgrounds
In this job market, differentiating and separating yourself from others can help you standout in your next interview and get the job you want.
- Steve Goldberg
Steve Golberg, President, We Place People is an industry expert based on his Executive experience within the retail, financial services and telecommunications industries where he has personally interviewed, hired and placed over 1,000 candidates within his career. Steve has mentored and coached numerous individuals throughout their careers which led them to Executive level positions.
Other Resources:
Instant, AMAZING Cover Letters for Your Job Search
The most overlooked moneymaking secret in today’s tough job market is the “humble” cover letter. Perfectly focused cover letters are the fastest, easiest way to dramatically increase your job interviews and job offers. So many times it’s the sparkling, one-page cover letter, not the resume, that is directly responsible for landing the job interview. In just 3 1/2 minutes you will have an amazing cover letter guaranteed to cut through your competition like a hot knife through butter. Let the new, "Amazing Cover Letter Creator" help you land more quality job interviews next week.
I read this recent article published by Net-Temps and thought it was worth sharing. Winning the Interview, by Steve Goldberg, President of We the People, covers tips on differentiating yourself during the interview. These tips will help you communicate your value in a way that is compelling and meaningful and, as a result, are likely to increase your chances of landing an offer.
I like his approach, as it's a familiar marketing formula. You present the problem, discuss the solution and state the value you provided. It makes good sense. Unfortunately, sometimes, it's easier said then done. I know I've gotten caught up in run-away interviews, where the interviewer didn't ask the questions that helped show-case my talents or was preoccupied with other things and didn't seem to be listening. There are so many moving parts to an interview, including nerves, that it's sometimes hard to stay on- track and showcase your strengths.
So, dear readers, all you can do when interviewing is try your best-be positive, be prepared and be professional.
Hope this is helpful.
Best,
Paula
This Week's Articles
Winning the Job Interview-Learn how to stand out from the competition
It has often been said that “your resume can get you an interview,” but in reality it’s your interview that can get you the job. In today’s challenging and competitive job market, employer’s have many candidates to choose from and therefore have become more discerning then ever before, which is why developing your interviewing skills is so important.
The person interviewing you is not only looking at your qualifications, but they are looking at what differentiates you from every other candidate. Answering the question, “what is it that you bring to this company and to this position that no one else can?” is what helps you stand out in a crowd.
As a professional interviewing coach with We Place People, this is one of the most important topics we discuss when preparing our candidates for interviews. With almost every question you answer, there must be something that you share that will make you stand out differently from everyone else and will ultimately make the company want to hire you! Remember, an interview is not just about what you have done, it’s about what you can do for that company. It’s what you can offer that your competition can not that will help make you the “candidate of choice.”
Determining who to move forward in the interviewing process is not always as cut and dry as one would think. The front line interviewers themselves are evaluated by the company on the caliber of the candidates they move forward in the process and if that person ultimately gets hired. They must ensure the candidates are qualified and they will be a “fit” for the organization, the position and the hiring decision maker. This is where you must “help” by sharing those skills, experiences, training, or qualifications that you bring to the organization that other candidates may not. It’s also the time to demonstrate your critical thinking process and how you approach and complete tasks, responsibilities, or projects. These are the same elements that you should prepare for when interviewing with the decision maker.
Here are some tips on how you can differentiate yourself:
1.Create a list of 5 interview questions that you are certain you will be asked in your interview
2.Carefully review the job description and learn about the company and position
3.When answering the interview questions and reviewing the elements of the job description you need to be able to describe:
a. What roles or responsibilities you had in your previous positions as they relate specifically to the position you are applying for and will resonate with the interviewer
b.How you specifically completed each function or responsibility
c.What the results were
d.What you have to offer that makes you stand out amongst others with similar backgrounds
In this job market, differentiating and separating yourself from others can help you standout in your next interview and get the job you want.
- Steve Goldberg
Steve Golberg, President, We Place People is an industry expert based on his Executive experience within the retail, financial services and telecommunications industries where he has personally interviewed, hired and placed over 1,000 candidates within his career. Steve has mentored and coached numerous individuals throughout their careers which led them to Executive level positions.
Other Resources:
Instant, AMAZING Cover Letters for Your Job Search
The most overlooked moneymaking secret in today’s tough job market is the “humble” cover letter. Perfectly focused cover letters are the fastest, easiest way to dramatically increase your job interviews and job offers. So many times it’s the sparkling, one-page cover letter, not the resume, that is directly responsible for landing the job interview. In just 3 1/2 minutes you will have an amazing cover letter guaranteed to cut through your competition like a hot knife through butter. Let the new, "Amazing Cover Letter Creator" help you land more quality job interviews next week.
Tuesday, September 14, 2010
Tips for long-term unemployed
Hi!
Hope your summer went well and you are feeling recharged and ready to go. Fall is typically a great hiring season, so fingers crossed, you'll be landing soon! Read this article by career coach Deborah Brown-Volkman, in Net Temps Newsletter, and think it has some great suggestions to help stay positive while conducting a job search.
Until the next time, stay positive, healthy and focused and you will see results!!!
Best,
Paula
1.Remind Yourself That This Is A Moment In Time.
Your career runs for multiple decades. That's a long period of time. What this means is sooner or later a setback will happen in your career. It's just the way things happen. All cycles have up's and down's and this is your down. The good news is it's all up from here. Remind yourself that a job will be there, and is waiting for you, right around the corner.
2.Reacquaint Yourself With Your Accomplishments.
When was the last time you looked at your resume? And when you do, does it seem like your accomplishments were achieved by someone else? Just because you have not performed a function in a while doesn't mean you can't perform it anymore. It's like riding a bicycle; you never forget how. Spend quality time with your resume. Read the bullets slowly. Remember the projects you worked on and the people you worked with to obtain these results. Remind yourself that these are your accomplishments, which are something to be proud of. Just because it's been a while, doesn't mean it didn't happen.
3.Create In Your Mind What You Want To Happen Next.
I believe that people get stuck in the day-to-day doldrums of life when they don't have something to look forward to. You may not know when your next job is coming, but you can get ready for it. Ask yourself what you want next. Where do you want to work? What location? What type of people? How much do you want to be making? When you can see what you want, clearly and powerfully, you can get it. I find that when people are out of work for a while, they can't see themselves in their jobs anymore. The amount of time that has passed only matters to you. Visualize what you want so you can get back to work again quickly.
4.Don't Give Up.
Most people don't take discouragement well. When they first lost their jobs, they had vigor and excitement. They got up everyday and had people to call and job search related activities to work on. Over time, the momentum and activities diminished. That caused them to stop or slow down. Don't let this happen to you. You only need one job and one person to give it to you. The work you put in now will bring results; you just haven't seen them yet. A job search is not an instant gratification pursuit. It's a process that brings results over time, on its timetable and not yours. So, you have to keep going.
5.Believe In Yourself.
Most of the time, we are our own worst enemy. We tell ourselves why something cannot be done before someone tells it to us first. This approach keeps you safe from rejection and failure, but it also holds you back. This economy may be forcing you to get out of your comfort zone and into new territory, all great for your personal growth. (Even though it does not feel so great most of the time.) Many people who come to me want to be challenged in their career. It's what's missing in their jobs and their lives. Well, this is your challenge. Will you rise to the occasion or let it get the best of you? You already have a track record of achieving great things. This will be another one to add to your list.
So, what do you say? You only have one life to live, so it might as well be a life you love!
Deborah Brown-Volkman, PCC, is the President of Surpass Your Dreams, Inc. a successful career, life, and mentor coaching company that works with Senior Executives, Vice Presidents, and Managers who are looking for new career opportunities or seek to become more productive in their current role. She is the author of "Coach Yourself To A New Career", "Don't Blow It! The Right Words For The Right Job" and "How To Feel Great At Work Everyday." Deborah can be reached at www.reinvent-your-career.com or at (631) 874-2877.
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Hope your summer went well and you are feeling recharged and ready to go. Fall is typically a great hiring season, so fingers crossed, you'll be landing soon! Read this article by career coach Deborah Brown-Volkman, in Net Temps Newsletter, and think it has some great suggestions to help stay positive while conducting a job search.
Until the next time, stay positive, healthy and focused and you will see results!!!
Best,
Paula
1.Remind Yourself That This Is A Moment In Time.
Your career runs for multiple decades. That's a long period of time. What this means is sooner or later a setback will happen in your career. It's just the way things happen. All cycles have up's and down's and this is your down. The good news is it's all up from here. Remind yourself that a job will be there, and is waiting for you, right around the corner.
2.Reacquaint Yourself With Your Accomplishments.
When was the last time you looked at your resume? And when you do, does it seem like your accomplishments were achieved by someone else? Just because you have not performed a function in a while doesn't mean you can't perform it anymore. It's like riding a bicycle; you never forget how. Spend quality time with your resume. Read the bullets slowly. Remember the projects you worked on and the people you worked with to obtain these results. Remind yourself that these are your accomplishments, which are something to be proud of. Just because it's been a while, doesn't mean it didn't happen.
3.Create In Your Mind What You Want To Happen Next.
I believe that people get stuck in the day-to-day doldrums of life when they don't have something to look forward to. You may not know when your next job is coming, but you can get ready for it. Ask yourself what you want next. Where do you want to work? What location? What type of people? How much do you want to be making? When you can see what you want, clearly and powerfully, you can get it. I find that when people are out of work for a while, they can't see themselves in their jobs anymore. The amount of time that has passed only matters to you. Visualize what you want so you can get back to work again quickly.
4.Don't Give Up.
Most people don't take discouragement well. When they first lost their jobs, they had vigor and excitement. They got up everyday and had people to call and job search related activities to work on. Over time, the momentum and activities diminished. That caused them to stop or slow down. Don't let this happen to you. You only need one job and one person to give it to you. The work you put in now will bring results; you just haven't seen them yet. A job search is not an instant gratification pursuit. It's a process that brings results over time, on its timetable and not yours. So, you have to keep going.
5.Believe In Yourself.
Most of the time, we are our own worst enemy. We tell ourselves why something cannot be done before someone tells it to us first. This approach keeps you safe from rejection and failure, but it also holds you back. This economy may be forcing you to get out of your comfort zone and into new territory, all great for your personal growth. (Even though it does not feel so great most of the time.) Many people who come to me want to be challenged in their career. It's what's missing in their jobs and their lives. Well, this is your challenge. Will you rise to the occasion or let it get the best of you? You already have a track record of achieving great things. This will be another one to add to your list.
So, what do you say? You only have one life to live, so it might as well be a life you love!
Deborah Brown-Volkman, PCC, is the President of Surpass Your Dreams, Inc. a successful career, life, and mentor coaching company that works with Senior Executives, Vice Presidents, and Managers who are looking for new career opportunities or seek to become more productive in their current role. She is the author of "Coach Yourself To A New Career", "Don't Blow It! The Right Words For The Right Job" and "How To Feel Great At Work Everyday." Deborah can be reached at www.reinvent-your-career.com or at (631) 874-2877.
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Monday, August 2, 2010
Reducing Stress Associated With Job Search
Dear Readers,
I just saw this article on reducing job search stress in Job Search Info, and thought it was worth sharing.
Stress Busters: Making The Most of Your Job Search
Life brings us plenty of stress everyday. Don't let the loss of a job increase your stress levels. Whether you're out of work, or on a hunt for a better career, there are ways to reduce the amount of unnecessary stress in the process. When you're ready to look for that new job, make the most of your time and energy by coming up with a plan to keep you focused on your goals.
Be Patient
Job searching is a process and it takes time like everything else. It's easy to get frustrated when we don't get results right away, but stay focused. Remind yourself that it may take longer than you think and more importantly, you're worth it. Make realistic goals for yourself every week and reward yourself for achieving them. No matter how much time you're putting into it, you need to take a break. So when you achieve your weekly goal, take some time off to regroup then start again fresh.
You are not your career
There is more to you than your 9-5. If you let your job define you, you will end up feeling lost and empty when you don't have one. You are a valuable person and you don't need a career to validate you. It can be very difficult to separate yourself from your career, but it will prove positive if you can. Think of yourself as an already complete person who will be even happier with a satisfying career.
Of course there is nothing wrong with maintaining a great career that enhances your life. Nevertheless, it can't be the only thing that makes you you. If you get into a rut and you're feeling really down in the dumps, take some time off. Job Searching is a full-time job and like every other job, you will need a vacation now and then. Use your time to assess your situation. Figure out how to work smarter-not harder.
Take yourself seriously
Make smart decisions about ads and occupations that sound like a good match for you. It's never good to put all your eggs in one basket, but make sure you're using your time wisely. Think of your job search as research project. Set up goals, a plan of action, and a deadline in which you should be done with your project.
Have a place to report to everyday. It can get depressing sitting in your house day after day, especially if you're not getting your desired results right away. Find a quiet place like a library where you can use all of your materials and concentrate on your goals.
Job Search Information is published by JobSearchInfo.com. For information on other helpful job searching resources, please feel free to visit our web site at www.jobsearchinfo.com.
I just saw this article on reducing job search stress in Job Search Info, and thought it was worth sharing.
Stress Busters: Making The Most of Your Job Search
Life brings us plenty of stress everyday. Don't let the loss of a job increase your stress levels. Whether you're out of work, or on a hunt for a better career, there are ways to reduce the amount of unnecessary stress in the process. When you're ready to look for that new job, make the most of your time and energy by coming up with a plan to keep you focused on your goals.
Be Patient
Job searching is a process and it takes time like everything else. It's easy to get frustrated when we don't get results right away, but stay focused. Remind yourself that it may take longer than you think and more importantly, you're worth it. Make realistic goals for yourself every week and reward yourself for achieving them. No matter how much time you're putting into it, you need to take a break. So when you achieve your weekly goal, take some time off to regroup then start again fresh.
You are not your career
There is more to you than your 9-5. If you let your job define you, you will end up feeling lost and empty when you don't have one. You are a valuable person and you don't need a career to validate you. It can be very difficult to separate yourself from your career, but it will prove positive if you can. Think of yourself as an already complete person who will be even happier with a satisfying career.
Of course there is nothing wrong with maintaining a great career that enhances your life. Nevertheless, it can't be the only thing that makes you you. If you get into a rut and you're feeling really down in the dumps, take some time off. Job Searching is a full-time job and like every other job, you will need a vacation now and then. Use your time to assess your situation. Figure out how to work smarter-not harder.
Take yourself seriously
Make smart decisions about ads and occupations that sound like a good match for you. It's never good to put all your eggs in one basket, but make sure you're using your time wisely. Think of your job search as research project. Set up goals, a plan of action, and a deadline in which you should be done with your project.
Have a place to report to everyday. It can get depressing sitting in your house day after day, especially if you're not getting your desired results right away. Find a quiet place like a library where you can use all of your materials and concentrate on your goals.
Job Search Information is published by JobSearchInfo.com. For information on other helpful job searching resources, please feel free to visit our web site at www.jobsearchinfo.com.
Wednesday, July 21, 2010
Great insight from article "Why Wasn't I Hired?" by Judi Perkins
For all job seekers,
I just read this fantastic article "Why Wasn't I Hired?" in Net Temps online newsletter. I wanted to share this with you as it hits on that nagging question "Why haven't I heard from XYZ company?". I know that's been a source of frustration for me, particularly if the interview process was going very well.
I hope you find this useful.
Best,
Paula
Why Wasn’t I Hired?
Interviewing can be both frustrating and arduous because throughout the process, you receive little or no feedback except for the obvious: if they want you back, they contact you. If they don’t, frequently you never hear from them again. But after a first interview the reasons for not being asked back are numerous, and quite frankly, usually they’re about you: lack of experience, poor interviewing skills, inadequate preparation and research, or similar shortcomings. As a result, another candidate generates more excitement.
But sometimes you are the candidate who’s invited back for a second or even a third interview. After that, though you’ve reached the final stages of interviewing and feel sure an offer is imminent, suddenly……nothing.
Sometimes the process has stalled. Occasionally - and stupidly - a company finds the perfect person, but feels they have to interview a specific number of people first, and while they do, they’re under the impression you’re waiting happily in the background with your life and emotions on hold until they contact you again.
Other times only a letter in the mail tells you it’s done. Rarely are candidates told why they didn't get the job. Unless you get this far in the process, usually you aren’t even told that much. Was it something you did? Maybe. But maybe not!
Relax. While you’re busy wondering what went wrong or trying to convince yourself it had nothing to do with you...sometimes that’s the truth! You and that company just weren't meant to be, and nothing you might have done - or not done - would have made any difference.
Consider these factors, all of which take place without your knowing:
•A last-minute candidate appeared on the scene who was exactly what they were looking for. Maybe you were almost perfect, but for some reason, the last-minute candidate was just a bit more whatever they were looking for. If you experienced a delay in your interviewing late in the process, odds are very good your position as the top candidate was usurped at the last minute.
•An internal candidate entered the picture. Though many companies post positions internally first and go outside only after exhausting internal options, that doesn’t account for someone changing his mind - especially if it was the person they were initially targeting.
•The company decided to eliminate the position or put the hiring process on hold. Sometimes when a company doesn’t know in which direction they want to go, they run an ad to “see what’s out there” and then eliminate the position when their water walker fails to submit a resume. On other occasions, the process might be halted as a result of some event that changed the circumstances - and thus changed their decision about interviewing.
•One of the interviewers that came into the picture later in the process didn't like you. Perhaps you reminded them of a former employee that didn't work out. Maybe they were threatened by your expertise and skill. In any case, they carried enough weight or had enough of a valid point to get you jettisoned from the process.
Interviewing is the process by which you find a company you like, and by which a company hires you because they feel you’re the best person for the job. Everything happens for a reason, and if you missed getting an offer with one company, something better may be just around the corner.
So concentrate on what you can control and forget about what you can’t. If you mope around worrying about what you did or didn't do and wonder why they didn't like you or where you messed up - your attitude will bring about another negative outcome. Look objectively at whether or not you can pinpoint something you might have done differently, and then learn from it. Otherwise, put it behind you and move forward with a confident and positive outlook!
- Judi Perkins
Judi Perkins, the How-To Career Coach, was a recruiter for 22 years, consulting with hundreds of hiring authorities throughout the hiring process. She’s seen over 500,000 resumes, knows how hiring authorities think and how they hire. As a result she understands and teaches what other coaches don’t: why the typical strategies in finding a job so often fail, what to do instead, and why. She’s been on PBS’s Frontline, will be in the May issue of Smart Money magazine, and has been quoted frequently in numerous articles for CareerBuilder, MSN Careers, Yahoo Hot Jobs, and the New York Times, among others. She’s also been featured as an expert in numerous career books. Sign up for her free newsletter at www.FindthePerfectJob.com!
© Copyright 1995-2010, Net-Temps, Inc. All Rights Reserved Worldwide. Net-Temps ® is a registered trademark.
I just read this fantastic article "Why Wasn't I Hired?" in Net Temps online newsletter. I wanted to share this with you as it hits on that nagging question "Why haven't I heard from XYZ company?". I know that's been a source of frustration for me, particularly if the interview process was going very well.
I hope you find this useful.
Best,
Paula
Why Wasn’t I Hired?
Interviewing can be both frustrating and arduous because throughout the process, you receive little or no feedback except for the obvious: if they want you back, they contact you. If they don’t, frequently you never hear from them again. But after a first interview the reasons for not being asked back are numerous, and quite frankly, usually they’re about you: lack of experience, poor interviewing skills, inadequate preparation and research, or similar shortcomings. As a result, another candidate generates more excitement.
But sometimes you are the candidate who’s invited back for a second or even a third interview. After that, though you’ve reached the final stages of interviewing and feel sure an offer is imminent, suddenly……nothing.
Sometimes the process has stalled. Occasionally - and stupidly - a company finds the perfect person, but feels they have to interview a specific number of people first, and while they do, they’re under the impression you’re waiting happily in the background with your life and emotions on hold until they contact you again.
Other times only a letter in the mail tells you it’s done. Rarely are candidates told why they didn't get the job. Unless you get this far in the process, usually you aren’t even told that much. Was it something you did? Maybe. But maybe not!
Relax. While you’re busy wondering what went wrong or trying to convince yourself it had nothing to do with you...sometimes that’s the truth! You and that company just weren't meant to be, and nothing you might have done - or not done - would have made any difference.
Consider these factors, all of which take place without your knowing:
•A last-minute candidate appeared on the scene who was exactly what they were looking for. Maybe you were almost perfect, but for some reason, the last-minute candidate was just a bit more whatever they were looking for. If you experienced a delay in your interviewing late in the process, odds are very good your position as the top candidate was usurped at the last minute.
•An internal candidate entered the picture. Though many companies post positions internally first and go outside only after exhausting internal options, that doesn’t account for someone changing his mind - especially if it was the person they were initially targeting.
•The company decided to eliminate the position or put the hiring process on hold. Sometimes when a company doesn’t know in which direction they want to go, they run an ad to “see what’s out there” and then eliminate the position when their water walker fails to submit a resume. On other occasions, the process might be halted as a result of some event that changed the circumstances - and thus changed their decision about interviewing.
•One of the interviewers that came into the picture later in the process didn't like you. Perhaps you reminded them of a former employee that didn't work out. Maybe they were threatened by your expertise and skill. In any case, they carried enough weight or had enough of a valid point to get you jettisoned from the process.
Interviewing is the process by which you find a company you like, and by which a company hires you because they feel you’re the best person for the job. Everything happens for a reason, and if you missed getting an offer with one company, something better may be just around the corner.
So concentrate on what you can control and forget about what you can’t. If you mope around worrying about what you did or didn't do and wonder why they didn't like you or where you messed up - your attitude will bring about another negative outcome. Look objectively at whether or not you can pinpoint something you might have done differently, and then learn from it. Otherwise, put it behind you and move forward with a confident and positive outlook!
- Judi Perkins
Judi Perkins, the How-To Career Coach, was a recruiter for 22 years, consulting with hundreds of hiring authorities throughout the hiring process. She’s seen over 500,000 resumes, knows how hiring authorities think and how they hire. As a result she understands and teaches what other coaches don’t: why the typical strategies in finding a job so often fail, what to do instead, and why. She’s been on PBS’s Frontline, will be in the May issue of Smart Money magazine, and has been quoted frequently in numerous articles for CareerBuilder, MSN Careers, Yahoo Hot Jobs, and the New York Times, among others. She’s also been featured as an expert in numerous career books. Sign up for her free newsletter at www.FindthePerfectJob.com!
© Copyright 1995-2010, Net-Temps, Inc. All Rights Reserved Worldwide. Net-Temps ® is a registered trademark.
Jobless-Aid Bill clearing hurdles for swift passage
To those searching for meaningful &/or suitable FT job employment,
As reported in today's Wall Street Journal page 3, I am pleased to share great news concerning the pending unemployment benefit extension bill. This bill, which will extend unemployment benefits for up to 99 weeks "in states with the highest unemployment rates", has cleared its hurdles and is expected to be passed by the Senate very soon. This is great news for the 2.5 million unemployed Americans who had been cut off from their unemployment benefits in June.
The concerns expressed by politicians and economists, as outlined in last week's blog, included the impact unemployment benefits have on motivation and the financial strain extended benefits will put on our nation's already bulging deficit. Per Senate Minority Leader Mitch McConnell (R, KY), "What we do not support-and we make no apologies for-is borrowing tens of billions of dollars to pass this bill at a time when the national debt is spinning completely out of control."
Nice guy, wonder how his constituents in KY feel about his compassionate view on unemployment. Perhaps his solution is to keep us engaged in several wars and create jobs through the military. As for the costs-who cares about the trillions of dollars going to our war efforts, the lives lost, and emotional damage caused as a result?
As reported in today's Wall Street Journal page 3, I am pleased to share great news concerning the pending unemployment benefit extension bill. This bill, which will extend unemployment benefits for up to 99 weeks "in states with the highest unemployment rates", has cleared its hurdles and is expected to be passed by the Senate very soon. This is great news for the 2.5 million unemployed Americans who had been cut off from their unemployment benefits in June.
The concerns expressed by politicians and economists, as outlined in last week's blog, included the impact unemployment benefits have on motivation and the financial strain extended benefits will put on our nation's already bulging deficit. Per Senate Minority Leader Mitch McConnell (R, KY), "What we do not support-and we make no apologies for-is borrowing tens of billions of dollars to pass this bill at a time when the national debt is spinning completely out of control."
Nice guy, wonder how his constituents in KY feel about his compassionate view on unemployment. Perhaps his solution is to keep us engaged in several wars and create jobs through the military. As for the costs-who cares about the trillions of dollars going to our war efforts, the lives lost, and emotional damage caused as a result?If you'd like to express your opinion, please do so here, or contact the Senator directly at: (502) 582-6304.
In any event, let's focus on the positive and hope this bill gets passed and signed in a speedy fashion. With 2.5 million in need, this extension offers a lifeline until they find new employment.
Until next time, keep the faith and stay strong.
Best,
Paula
ps, for those interested, the details on state unemployment levels can be found on Wall Street Journal's site: http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052748704852004575258351245321016.html?mod=WSJ_WSJ_US_News_10_1
Wednesday, July 14, 2010
Controversy over unemployment benefits
Several news agencies, including the Wall Street Journal's, Long Recession Ignites Debate on Jobless Benefits, have recently covered the brewing debate over unemployment benefits and their lingering affect on the unemployed. The debate is fairly straight forward and mimics the on-going debate about welfare. The concern is that extending unemployment makes the unemployed lazy or complacent. Per Michael Tanner of the Cato Institute, "when you have a check coming in, even if it's a fairly low check, you're less motivated to either look for work or accept less optimal jobs."
I find it "interesting" that educated economist and politicians are having this conversation, given our nation's widely reported "worst recession in generations". To make matters worse, the Federal Reserve just announced our economy is slowing and we'll see a weaker second half than first. Net result, companies may put a hold on new hires until the outcome looks more positive.
To put some humor into this otherwise grim forecast, I've decided to put together a "cheeky" response based on SNL's Weekend Update, entitled, "Really?"
(Please feel free to mimic Amy and Seth when reading this!)
Really?
Really politicians, who have medical benefits for life, stable salaries and fringe benefits galore, REALLY?
Because the average person on unemployment, after a 5-25 year work history really wants to spend 40 hours a week, for over a year, looking for work. REALLY?
Because unemployed people love spending most of their day in isolation on job boards. REALLY?
Because unemployed people are thick skinned and enjoy rejection and being told they just aren't perfect enough to gain a coveted position, regardless of how well suited or over-qualified they are for the job. REALLY?
Because the unemployed enjoy the stress of trying to keep positive and productive while the bills pile up as the nest egg gets depleted. REALLY?
Because being laid off due the "worst recession in generations" was the fault of the "worker bees". REALLY?
And most importantly, because making less than 1/4 of our income is lucrative enough to make the unemployed want to stay on unemployment forever. REALLY?
To all those struggling with long-term unemployment, my heart goes out to you. Stay strong, stay productive and stay positive!!!!
Best,
Paula
I find it "interesting" that educated economist and politicians are having this conversation, given our nation's widely reported "worst recession in generations". To make matters worse, the Federal Reserve just announced our economy is slowing and we'll see a weaker second half than first. Net result, companies may put a hold on new hires until the outcome looks more positive.
To put some humor into this otherwise grim forecast, I've decided to put together a "cheeky" response based on SNL's Weekend Update, entitled, "Really?"
(Please feel free to mimic Amy and Seth when reading this!)
Really?
Really politicians, who have medical benefits for life, stable salaries and fringe benefits galore, REALLY?
Because the average person on unemployment, after a 5-25 year work history really wants to spend 40 hours a week, for over a year, looking for work. REALLY?
Because unemployed people love spending most of their day in isolation on job boards. REALLY?
Because unemployed people are thick skinned and enjoy rejection and being told they just aren't perfect enough to gain a coveted position, regardless of how well suited or over-qualified they are for the job. REALLY?
Because the unemployed enjoy the stress of trying to keep positive and productive while the bills pile up as the nest egg gets depleted. REALLY?
Because being laid off due the "worst recession in generations" was the fault of the "worker bees". REALLY?
And most importantly, because making less than 1/4 of our income is lucrative enough to make the unemployed want to stay on unemployment forever. REALLY?
To all those struggling with long-term unemployment, my heart goes out to you. Stay strong, stay productive and stay positive!!!!
Best,
Paula
Thursday, June 24, 2010
When life hands you kittens...
In my recent blog I provided several tips to help alleviate the symptoms of stress. I then followed with a story that emphasized the benefits of helping others. Because of these two postings I thought I'd take the liberty of sharing my own recent volunteer experience.
About a month ago, while walking around my neighborhood, my friend and I found 3 baby kittens. They were small, very small, and clearly had been abandoned. They seemed to be in fairly good condition, so we
scooped them up with the intention of taking them to Pet Smart, giving them to the local pet rescue group. When we got to my house we realized we didn't know the first thing about taking care of baby kittens. But, as mothers, and fairly savvy women, we took out eye droppers and fed them heated milk.
The kittens were happy and slept through the night. We were thrilled!
Our optimism quickly faded when we were informed there were no other volunteers to take care of the kittens. Further, we were told the probability of their living was 50%, given their young age-barely 2 weeks old. What to do? What to do when you have dogs and husbands who are not cat lovers?
My friend decided we would take care of the kitties the first week to make sure they lived, splitting responsibility to make things easier. During that week we looked for other volunteers in our neighborhood to help us in caring for the kittens until they were ready for adoption. My friend was applying the "It takes a Village" theory and using it to our advantage.
The concept worked beautifully the first 3 weeks. Several families took the kittens from 1-3 nights. The kittens were tiny and had to be bottled feed kitten formula. They ate and slept like babies. Who could resist
such cuteness?!!!! Even better, we successfully "marketed" the kittens and found them all great homes.
Around week 4-5 the novelty of caring for the kittens started to fade. While May, Lake and Smokey (we found them in May, by the lake and one was smokey grey) were still cute as could be, they were now big kittens eating food and getting into trouble. Fewer people volunteered, so my family stepped up to the plate with one of the adopting families and we decided to split the week for the remaining few weeks.
Only kittens right? No big deal.
On the contrary. Keeping these kittens during my "new found time" has been a wonderful experience for my family. There have been several benefits to fostering these kittens:
Should the opportunity to help someone or something present itself during your "transitional time", take the leap and do your best. The rewards will far out way the costs.
Best,
Paula
About a month ago, while walking around my neighborhood, my friend and I found 3 baby kittens. They were small, very small, and clearly had been abandoned. They seemed to be in fairly good condition, so we
scooped them up with the intention of taking them to Pet Smart, giving them to the local pet rescue group. When we got to my house we realized we didn't know the first thing about taking care of baby kittens. But, as mothers, and fairly savvy women, we took out eye droppers and fed them heated milk.
The kittens were happy and slept through the night. We were thrilled!
Our optimism quickly faded when we were informed there were no other volunteers to take care of the kittens. Further, we were told the probability of their living was 50%, given their young age-barely 2 weeks old. What to do? What to do when you have dogs and husbands who are not cat lovers?
My friend decided we would take care of the kitties the first week to make sure they lived, splitting responsibility to make things easier. During that week we looked for other volunteers in our neighborhood to help us in caring for the kittens until they were ready for adoption. My friend was applying the "It takes a Village" theory and using it to our advantage.
The concept worked beautifully the first 3 weeks. Several families took the kittens from 1-3 nights. The kittens were tiny and had to be bottled feed kitten formula. They ate and slept like babies. Who could resist
such cuteness?!!!! Even better, we successfully "marketed" the kittens and found them all great homes.
Around week 4-5 the novelty of caring for the kittens started to fade. While May, Lake and Smokey (we found them in May, by the lake and one was smokey grey) were still cute as could be, they were now big kittens eating food and getting into trouble. Fewer people volunteered, so my family stepped up to the plate with one of the adopting families and we decided to split the week for the remaining few weeks.
Only kittens right? No big deal.
On the contrary. Keeping these kittens during my "new found time" has been a wonderful experience for my family. There have been several benefits to fostering these kittens:
- We have gotten closer with a number of neighbors through this common bond.
- We have learned to appreciate the nuances of kittens/cats.
- We saved 3 lives!
- My son learned how to care for baby animals.
- Watching and petting animals helps reduce stress.
Should the opportunity to help someone or something present itself during your "transitional time", take the leap and do your best. The rewards will far out way the costs.
Best,
Paula
Thursday, June 17, 2010
Volunteering-The benefits are immeasurable
I truly hadn't expected to write again, as I just posted my article on "Tips for Managing Stress" yesterday, but when I saw this story, I had to share it with you. Let me disclose at the onset, that I haven't validated the authencity of this story. Perhaps it's true, perhaps it's fiction-I don't know as the credits weren't provided. Either way, it's a sweet story about human kindness and how it can leave a lasting impression on others.
A Glass OF MILK
One day, a poor boy who was selling goods from door to door to pay his way through school, found he had only one thin dime left,and he was hungry.
He decided he would ask for a meal at the next house. However, he lost his nerve when a lovely young woman opened the door.
Instead of a meal he asked for a drink of water. She thought he looked hungry so brought him a large glass of milk. He drank it so slowly, and then asked, "How much do I owe you?"
"You don't owe me anything," she replied. "Mother has taught us never to accept pay for a kindness."
He said ... "Then I thank you from the bottom of my heart."
As Howard Kelly left that house, he not only felt stronger physically, but his faith in God and man was strong also. He had been ready to give up and quit.
Many years later that same young woman became critically ill. The local doctors were baffled. They finally sent her to the big city, where they called in specialists to study her rare disease.
Dr. Howard Kelly was called in for the consultation. When he heard the name of the town she came from, a strange light filled his eyes.
Immediately he rose and went down the hall of the hospital to her room.
Dressed in his doctor's gown he went in to see her. He recognized her at once.
He went back to the consultation room determined to do his best to save her life. From that day the gave special attention to her case.
After a long struggle, the battle was won.
Dr. Kelly requested the business office to pass the final bill to him for approval. He looked at it, wrote something on the edge and sent the bill to her room. She feared to open it, for she was sure it would take the rest of her life to pay for it all. Finally she looked, and something caught her attention on the side of the bill. She read these words. "Paid in full with one glass of milk"
(Signed) Dr. Howard Kelly.
Tears of joy flooded her eyes as her happy heart prayed: "Thank You God, that Your love has spread broad through human hearts and hands."
There's a saying which goes something like this: Bread cast on the waters comes back to you. The good deed you do today may benefit you or someone you love at the least expected time. If you never see the deed again at least you will have made the world a better place - And, after all, isn't that what life is all about?!
The hardest thing to learn in life is which bridge to cross and which to burn.
A Glass OF MILK
One day, a poor boy who was selling goods from door to door to pay his way through school, found he had only one thin dime left,and he was hungry.
He decided he would ask for a meal at the next house. However, he lost his nerve when a lovely young woman opened the door.
Instead of a meal he asked for a drink of water. She thought he looked hungry so brought him a large glass of milk. He drank it so slowly, and then asked, "How much do I owe you?"
"You don't owe me anything," she replied. "Mother has taught us never to accept pay for a kindness."
He said ... "Then I thank you from the bottom of my heart."
As Howard Kelly left that house, he not only felt stronger physically, but his faith in God and man was strong also. He had been ready to give up and quit.
Many years later that same young woman became critically ill. The local doctors were baffled. They finally sent her to the big city, where they called in specialists to study her rare disease.
Dr. Howard Kelly was called in for the consultation. When he heard the name of the town she came from, a strange light filled his eyes.
Immediately he rose and went down the hall of the hospital to her room.
Dressed in his doctor's gown he went in to see her. He recognized her at once.
He went back to the consultation room determined to do his best to save her life. From that day the gave special attention to her case.
After a long struggle, the battle was won.
Dr. Kelly requested the business office to pass the final bill to him for approval. He looked at it, wrote something on the edge and sent the bill to her room. She feared to open it, for she was sure it would take the rest of her life to pay for it all. Finally she looked, and something caught her attention on the side of the bill. She read these words. "Paid in full with one glass of milk"
(Signed) Dr. Howard Kelly.
Tears of joy flooded her eyes as her happy heart prayed: "Thank You God, that Your love has spread broad through human hearts and hands."
There's a saying which goes something like this: Bread cast on the waters comes back to you. The good deed you do today may benefit you or someone you love at the least expected time. If you never see the deed again at least you will have made the world a better place - And, after all, isn't that what life is all about?!
The hardest thing to learn in life is which bridge to cross and which to burn.
Wednesday, June 16, 2010
Tips for Managing Stress
Last October I wrote an article for a client on the impact of stress to your health. Given the amount of stress generated from job loss, job search and income changes, I thought I’d share this updated version, which includes recent research and personal experience, in hopes of helping you manage your stress levels during this challenging time.
“Stressed out”? Don’t let life’s stressors affect your health
Excerpts Published 10/14/09 Bayonne Community News
Have you noticed how many of your friends, family, colleagues or neighbors are feeling “stressed out” because of the economy, job uncertainty, unemployment or finances? Stress is a normal part of life and is the result of any change, good or bad, to your routine or health. Prolonged stress, stress that isn’t addressed, can promote muscle tension which often turns into neck or back pain or can contribute to more serious physical and emotional illnesses.
Tips for Managing Stress
These helpful tips can help you control your stress level and promote better physical and emotional health.
1. Consult with a Health-Care Provider
• Get a medical checkup.
• Talk to your health-care provider (Medical or Chiropractor Doctor) to determine cause and appropriate treatment.
• Consider speaking to a counselor, psychologist, support group, or… follow lemonsin2lemonaide!!!
2. Exercise for prevention and maintenance
• Try swimming, it’s great for the back and helps reduce stress-induced pain.
• Stretch your body! Take breaks from your daily routine to stretch. For added results, look into a gentle form of yoga or learn some relaxation movements. Talk to your health-care provider about yoga or other stretching movements to ease stress and back pain.
• Start Walking, it’s an easy way to help your circulation and reduce stress.
• Enroll in an exercise program that’s just right for your size, momentum and interest level.
3. Relax and let your body heal
• Clear your head and do nothing for 5 minutes every day.
• Take frequent breaks from using your computer and try to keep good posture when sitting at your desk
• Use cold and hot compresses to help ease stress-related neck and back pain.
• Have a massage to work out the muscles and ease the pain.
4. Make good food and drink choices
• Eat smaller portions of healthier, non-processed, food.
• Relax and slow down-don’t rush through your meals. Enjoy your food and this time alone, with friends or family.
• Reduce or Eliminate caffeine-it promotes sleeplessness and can make you jittery.
• Limit your alcohol consumption as it can affect sleeping patterns or foster depression.
5. Take control over your life
• Create lists to keep track of your commitments. Try not to over-commit!
• Evaluate what’s bothering you, break the problems down and address each one head on in an order that works best for you.
6. Polish your skills to stay relevant to your job and industry
• Take advantage of free on-line webinars to keep your skills fresh.
• Join an association, as they offer great classes and helpful networking.
• Take classes, some states reimburse tuition for in-state colleges and universities. Check your local unemployment office for details.
7. Feed your soul!
• Volunteering gives you a sense of purpose and increases your sense of self-worth.
• Spend more time with people you care about.
• Read books to keep your mind active and allow yourself some escapism.
• Try something new or pursue a dream.
Most importantly...Stay Balanced!
Try to offset life’s daily stressors by maintaining a healthy lifestyle and by seeking help from a health-care provider if you are experiencing any health-related illnesses.
Hope these tips have been helpful, let me know what you do to offset stress.
Paula
Next Week: Stress management-walking the walk and talking the talk.
“Stressed out”? Don’t let life’s stressors affect your health
Excerpts Published 10/14/09 Bayonne Community News
Have you noticed how many of your friends, family, colleagues or neighbors are feeling “stressed out” because of the economy, job uncertainty, unemployment or finances? Stress is a normal part of life and is the result of any change, good or bad, to your routine or health. Prolonged stress, stress that isn’t addressed, can promote muscle tension which often turns into neck or back pain or can contribute to more serious physical and emotional illnesses.
Tips for Managing Stress
These helpful tips can help you control your stress level and promote better physical and emotional health.
1. Consult with a Health-Care Provider
• Get a medical checkup.
• Talk to your health-care provider (Medical or Chiropractor Doctor) to determine cause and appropriate treatment.
• Consider speaking to a counselor, psychologist, support group, or… follow lemonsin2lemonaide!!!
2. Exercise for prevention and maintenance
• Try swimming, it’s great for the back and helps reduce stress-induced pain.
• Stretch your body! Take breaks from your daily routine to stretch. For added results, look into a gentle form of yoga or learn some relaxation movements. Talk to your health-care provider about yoga or other stretching movements to ease stress and back pain.
• Start Walking, it’s an easy way to help your circulation and reduce stress.
• Enroll in an exercise program that’s just right for your size, momentum and interest level.
3. Relax and let your body heal
• Clear your head and do nothing for 5 minutes every day.
• Take frequent breaks from using your computer and try to keep good posture when sitting at your desk
• Use cold and hot compresses to help ease stress-related neck and back pain.
• Have a massage to work out the muscles and ease the pain.
4. Make good food and drink choices
• Eat smaller portions of healthier, non-processed, food.
• Relax and slow down-don’t rush through your meals. Enjoy your food and this time alone, with friends or family.
• Reduce or Eliminate caffeine-it promotes sleeplessness and can make you jittery.
• Limit your alcohol consumption as it can affect sleeping patterns or foster depression.
5. Take control over your life
• Create lists to keep track of your commitments. Try not to over-commit!
• Evaluate what’s bothering you, break the problems down and address each one head on in an order that works best for you.
6. Polish your skills to stay relevant to your job and industry
• Take advantage of free on-line webinars to keep your skills fresh.
• Join an association, as they offer great classes and helpful networking.
• Take classes, some states reimburse tuition for in-state colleges and universities. Check your local unemployment office for details.
7. Feed your soul!
• Volunteering gives you a sense of purpose and increases your sense of self-worth.
• Spend more time with people you care about.
• Read books to keep your mind active and allow yourself some escapism.
• Try something new or pursue a dream.
Most importantly...Stay Balanced!
Try to offset life’s daily stressors by maintaining a healthy lifestyle and by seeking help from a health-care provider if you are experiencing any health-related illnesses.
Hope these tips have been helpful, let me know what you do to offset stress.
Paula
Next Week: Stress management-walking the walk and talking the talk.
Wednesday, June 9, 2010
Job loss, unemployment and the emotional roller-coaster
No doubt about it, being unemployed is an emotional roller-coaster.
How and what you feel will be totally unique to you. Some of the common emotions experienced after job loss include: denial, anger, sadness, guilt, relief, and perhaps, if you're honest, happiness. Your feelings may depend on variables such as your financial stability, job satisfaction, support structure and even your personal esteem. Just know whatever you're feeling is ok, so give yourself some time, let yourself feel it, and then move on.
When I first lost my job I remember feeling a sense of relief. The uncertainty of not knowing whether or not I would lose my job was more troubling to me than actually losing my job. The office environment had become almost crippling, as many people were fearful of losing their jobs and layoffs were a frequent topic of discussion. Although I was not happy about losing my job, and more importantly, it's associated income, I was relieved to be moving on.
Within a short period my relief changed to optimism. I was almost giddy with the excitement of moving on in a positive direction with unlimited opportunities. I saw my unemployment as an opportunity to further develop skills, spend more time with my family, do some volunteer work and position myself for the future. All great stuff.
But then, over time, my optimism faded to frustration. From June-December 2009 my phone never rang despite on-going networking efforts and frequent use of my "elevator pitch". There simply were few-no jobs available, let alone jobs that were a good fit for my technology background and Central NJ location. Further, the competition was crazy. It seemed that every marketing manager was out of work, regardless of their associated industry.
Earlier this year when I applied for a Marketing Director position I found out I was competing against approximately 500 other candidates. While I was confident I was well qualified for the job and my background was a great fit for their search criteria, it was a bit un-nerving to find out there was so much competition. Given the odds, I was pleased that I made it to their short list after undergoing several interviews. When I followed up, however, I was told that I did not get the job. The hiring execs wanted to continue their search for the "ideal" candidate.
Where do you go from there? You pick yourself up, brush yourself off, give yourself a pep talk and move forward. Like I said, being unemployed in today's economy is an emotional roller-coaster. Hang on and keep the faith, as eventually the ride will take us to where we truly want to go. As Dory says in Finding Nemo, "Just keep swimming, swimming, swimming".
Best,
Paula
On a serious note:
Being unemployed is stressful, as it combines 2 of life's greatest causes of stress, Finances and Job. In 1967, Thomas H. Holmes and Richard H. Rahe did a study on the connection between significant life events and illness. As part of their study they compiled a chart of the major causes of stress. While the top 7 contributors of stress change as we age, they usually include:
1) Finances
2) Job
3) Family
4) Personal Concerns -one of the top sources of stress is lack of control!
5) Personal Health and Safety
6) Relationships
7) Death
For additional information, please visit http://ezinearticles.com/?7-Leading-Causes-of-Stress&id=473303
Next: Tips for Manging Stress
How and what you feel will be totally unique to you. Some of the common emotions experienced after job loss include: denial, anger, sadness, guilt, relief, and perhaps, if you're honest, happiness. Your feelings may depend on variables such as your financial stability, job satisfaction, support structure and even your personal esteem. Just know whatever you're feeling is ok, so give yourself some time, let yourself feel it, and then move on.
When I first lost my job I remember feeling a sense of relief. The uncertainty of not knowing whether or not I would lose my job was more troubling to me than actually losing my job. The office environment had become almost crippling, as many people were fearful of losing their jobs and layoffs were a frequent topic of discussion. Although I was not happy about losing my job, and more importantly, it's associated income, I was relieved to be moving on.
Within a short period my relief changed to optimism. I was almost giddy with the excitement of moving on in a positive direction with unlimited opportunities. I saw my unemployment as an opportunity to further develop skills, spend more time with my family, do some volunteer work and position myself for the future. All great stuff.
But then, over time, my optimism faded to frustration. From June-December 2009 my phone never rang despite on-going networking efforts and frequent use of my "elevator pitch". There simply were few-no jobs available, let alone jobs that were a good fit for my technology background and Central NJ location. Further, the competition was crazy. It seemed that every marketing manager was out of work, regardless of their associated industry.
Earlier this year when I applied for a Marketing Director position I found out I was competing against approximately 500 other candidates. While I was confident I was well qualified for the job and my background was a great fit for their search criteria, it was a bit un-nerving to find out there was so much competition. Given the odds, I was pleased that I made it to their short list after undergoing several interviews. When I followed up, however, I was told that I did not get the job. The hiring execs wanted to continue their search for the "ideal" candidate.
Where do you go from there? You pick yourself up, brush yourself off, give yourself a pep talk and move forward. Like I said, being unemployed in today's economy is an emotional roller-coaster. Hang on and keep the faith, as eventually the ride will take us to where we truly want to go. As Dory says in Finding Nemo, "Just keep swimming, swimming, swimming".
Best,
Paula
On a serious note:
Being unemployed is stressful, as it combines 2 of life's greatest causes of stress, Finances and Job. In 1967, Thomas H. Holmes and Richard H. Rahe did a study on the connection between significant life events and illness. As part of their study they compiled a chart of the major causes of stress. While the top 7 contributors of stress change as we age, they usually include:
1) Finances
2) Job
3) Family
4) Personal Concerns -one of the top sources of stress is lack of control!
5) Personal Health and Safety
6) Relationships
7) Death
For additional information, please visit http://ezinearticles.com/?7-Leading-Causes-of-Stress&id=473303
Next: Tips for Manging Stress
Tuesday, June 8, 2010
Turning lemons into lemonaide-Staying positive when downsized
Don't know about the rest of you, but I liken being laid off to pyschological warfare...every day is a battle. But, as they say, sometimes you have to forget about the battle and stay focused on winning the war.
I thought journalling my journey would be helpful not only to myself, but to others who are also struggling to stay positive and focused while looking for their next "big thing" or, perhaps more importantly, a steady paycheck.
Yours in spirit,
Paula
I thought journalling my journey would be helpful not only to myself, but to others who are also struggling to stay positive and focused while looking for their next "big thing" or, perhaps more importantly, a steady paycheck.
Yours in spirit,
Paula
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